4 Ways You Dance With Desire

SOMETIMES there are outlooks on life you have and you don’t know you have them. Your outlook on life is a seriously potent force. In the absence of awareness, how you see, your outlook, who you think you are, your identity and what’s motivating, how desire is living in you, are a triad collaboratively and covertly sourcing your sense of self, purpose and meaning. All of us are seeing and experiencing life with a particular pair of eyes, too often not knowing what pair of eyes we’re seeing and experiencing through. Logics we live in, hidden stances, perspectives so intimate they aren’t on the self-reflection radar. In Zen we say, “ the eye that sees can’t see itself” This is subtle. We can rarely get outside of our outlook enough to get perspective on it. Sometimes someone points it out to us and sometimes life points it out, but the opportunity to see and the desire to see rarely converge. The particular outlooks I want to unfold are 4 ways you dance with desire.

The first way i’m calling object or object orientation. In Buddhist texts, there’s a lot of talk about subject and object. Subject is the sense of ‘I Am’ , the ubiquitous sense of being one who experiences, who is impressed upon, a conscious agent within a world. Sometimes we call it the sense of self. They talk about objects as all the things that subjects orient towards or experience. The whole problem of human life is boiled down…